Last Thursday, student performances inside the dance studio weren’t set to music—instead, group after group of peers put on skits showing healthy and unhealthy relationships. This was the last act before the curtain came down on 2025’s IN Day, an annual event devoted to looking inward to learn about and discuss relationships of all kinds.

IN Day sees Saints partnering with the One Love Foundation—an organization focused on educating, raising awareness, and mobilizing people to end relationship abuse and create healthier relationships. Dean of Students Greg Guldin, who helped bring IN Day to St. Andrew’s in 2022, worked with Director of Counseling Lizzie Brown, Form Advisors, and junior and senior student facilitators to bring IN Day 2025 to life.

“We rely on each other to make [St. Andrew’s] what it is. Yet, relationships are not things we spend much time talking about,” Guldin says. “We assume kids will learn [about relationships] over time and we neglect offering the language they may need to communicate what they are seeing, feeling, or experiencing.”

One Love’s “Ten Signs” of healthy and unhealthy relationships provide a shared framework for Saints on IN Day and beyond. And One Love’s lessons apply to and go beyond spotting and addressing toxic or abusive romantic relationships—positives like mutual respect, or negatives like possessiveness, can crop up between roommates, friends, teammates, and the like as well as between romantic partners.

On IN Day, facilitators—with the help of adult mentors—support peers’ open and honest dialogue in response to a Chapel service and speech, skits, movies and discussion guides from One Love, and vehicles to discuss the particulars of relationship-building in a boarding school environment. The content can be cathartic for students who have experienced unhealthy dynamics, and educational to those looking for tools to help themselves or their loved ones in need of support, Guldin says.

Roberto Buccini ’26 was excited to step into a facilitator role for 2025 and follow in the footsteps of older students who left an impression facilitating for his groups in past years. He felt driven to help sustain the wellbeing of his community.

“I’ve learned how important just having the basic knowledge of healthy and unhealthy relationships is, in terms of how much of a difference it can make,” he says. “Because St. Andrew’s is such a small community, it’s super important that we value every relationship and know that love should never hurt. It’s also important that we know when and how to dispute conflicts.”

Handling conflict was a major piece of students’ skits, from roleplaying bystander intervention in a case of bullying, to acting out a conflict between friends over a broken game. When student-actors made their audience laugh, they were always balancing levity and respect for the topics at hand.

“Even if a student uses the ‘Ten Signs’ in a somewhat humorous manner, they are using the terms, and these are terms they would not have learned in another context,” Guldin says. “It makes logical sense that a community built on trust and trusting relationships would pause to take some time to expand our intellectual curiosity from the classrooms and bring it into our own interactions with others. We think about thinking all the time at St. Andrew's. Now we are thinking about our relationships too. I can think of nothing more fitting.”